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Recently I had one experience. It made me think more about women.
You know, most of us have a stereotype that a good looking girl must be good in bed. I think it might be true as well as NOT. From my experience, seems that it's very individual. Each girl feels like some kind of a fruit, having a specific taste. Some make you go like that Pavlov's dog, you see her and you start producing saliva ;) Some are a bit more like industrial anti-fly spray, you being the fly. Luckily, there aren't that many like that around.
Why is is that with some random girl - even if not the hotest chick on this planet - you can enjoy mindless fucking so much, while with another one - even if the hottest girl ever - you can't, not even close to that. I guess there are physical, emotional, mental predisposition.
For me, a girl that is smart, suddenly gains a whole lot on this "being sexi" rating. If a girl is dumb, she reminds me rather of some little sweet animal - unicorn - ;) which is rather to look at, but touching her would almost make me feel like I am some kind of superdesperate guy who has an urgent need to ejaculate. I guess I am too attached to my intelect. Maybe letting go of my idea of seeing myself as smart would make sex even with the dumbest girl ( given she is sexi) enjoyable.
I guess I haven't been that desperate to get sex yet. After all, sometimes it feels that you can do the job better alone than with a "helping" hand ( or substitute with any other organ).
For me, sex was something almost holy. It's that feeling when you don't even have sex yet, but you already feel you would sell all your property for a night with one particular girl - because you are so in love that you simply can't help it. Usually that girl would be girlfriend. Good news is that actually falling in love is a CHOICE! I never thought about it, but it's really a choice, nothing else. Eg. I could have sex with a girl that made it clear that wants only sex, but it would be my choice to fall in love with her. While in love, sex tastes so much better, not to mention one does not have to force himself to have sex than, it just comes naturally. Well, actually, while loving someone, I would sometimes almost feel like I wouldn't necessarily even need sex, I could just look at her and bliss out of my skull just by doing that. True that I exaggerate, sex being a very important part of a relationships still - depending on each individual's needs.
Q: But how can you enjoy just mindless fucking with a stranger?
Would have thought it's impossible for me, but actually it's very much possible, it just requires practice like with everything. Yet, sex should be enjoyed, otherwise it makes not sense to do it - for me at least. What's the point of doing something, that you do NOT enjoy?
( even if it's so much glorified and advertised thing in media - "SEX SELLS")
But just the idea of a guy refusing to have sex with some girl seems utterly unimaginable - in modern pop culture that is. I am sure there are plenty of guys that have turned down sexi chicks.
As a matter of a fact I know it, even though many would fall to temptation of mindless fucking or maybe even good feeling that their male buddies would see them with such a nice TROPHY. I believe though that girls ( or guys for girls that is) shouldn't be trophies. For me at least, it makes more sense to be single than to be with someone you do not like - no matter how pretty she is - well, ok, given she is very pretty, maybe I could do it, but I would still hate myself for doing it cause it would make me feel so stupid.
The temptation is high and with age, you realize that when a chance comes, no need to bring flowers, no need to write love messages nor nothing, just "DO IT!" like NIKE's slogan in commercials.
You know, most of us have a stereotype that a good looking girl must be good in bed. I think it might be true as well as NOT. From my experience, seems that it's very individual. Each girl feels like some kind of a fruit, having a specific taste. Some make you go like that Pavlov's dog, you see her and you start producing saliva ;) Some are a bit more like industrial anti-fly spray, you being the fly. Luckily, there aren't that many like that around.
Why is is that with some random girl - even if not the hotest chick on this planet - you can enjoy mindless fucking so much, while with another one - even if the hottest girl ever - you can't, not even close to that. I guess there are physical, emotional, mental predisposition.
For me, a girl that is smart, suddenly gains a whole lot on this "being sexi" rating. If a girl is dumb, she reminds me rather of some little sweet animal - unicorn - ;) which is rather to look at, but touching her would almost make me feel like I am some kind of superdesperate guy who has an urgent need to ejaculate. I guess I am too attached to my intelect. Maybe letting go of my idea of seeing myself as smart would make sex even with the dumbest girl ( given she is sexi) enjoyable.
I guess I haven't been that desperate to get sex yet. After all, sometimes it feels that you can do the job better alone than with a "helping" hand ( or substitute with any other organ).
For me, sex was something almost holy. It's that feeling when you don't even have sex yet, but you already feel you would sell all your property for a night with one particular girl - because you are so in love that you simply can't help it. Usually that girl would be girlfriend. Good news is that actually falling in love is a CHOICE! I never thought about it, but it's really a choice, nothing else. Eg. I could have sex with a girl that made it clear that wants only sex, but it would be my choice to fall in love with her. While in love, sex tastes so much better, not to mention one does not have to force himself to have sex than, it just comes naturally. Well, actually, while loving someone, I would sometimes almost feel like I wouldn't necessarily even need sex, I could just look at her and bliss out of my skull just by doing that. True that I exaggerate, sex being a very important part of a relationships still - depending on each individual's needs.
Q: But how can you enjoy just mindless fucking with a stranger?
Would have thought it's impossible for me, but actually it's very much possible, it just requires practice like with everything. Yet, sex should be enjoyed, otherwise it makes not sense to do it - for me at least. What's the point of doing something, that you do NOT enjoy?
( even if it's so much glorified and advertised thing in media - "SEX SELLS")
But just the idea of a guy refusing to have sex with some girl seems utterly unimaginable - in modern pop culture that is. I am sure there are plenty of guys that have turned down sexi chicks.
As a matter of a fact I know it, even though many would fall to temptation of mindless fucking or maybe even good feeling that their male buddies would see them with such a nice TROPHY. I believe though that girls ( or guys for girls that is) shouldn't be trophies. For me at least, it makes more sense to be single than to be with someone you do not like - no matter how pretty she is - well, ok, given she is very pretty, maybe I could do it, but I would still hate myself for doing it cause it would make me feel so stupid.
The temptation is high and with age, you realize that when a chance comes, no need to bring flowers, no need to write love messages nor nothing, just "DO IT!" like NIKE's slogan in commercials.
For each and every one of us - it's a choice - we have to make.
Do we want a princess, that we would carry in our hands for a while until we get tired of it ( scientists claim it's between 1-2years) or do we want just a girl to keep us a company while having some quality time too.
Funny enough, some girls probably think the same way as guys as I have noticed. They do NOT need all those things that we think we should provide. They just want to ... FUCK. I was quite astonished to find that out. Actually quite a good news, even though, having some emotional connections definitely helps ;) but in our "modern" age, is not necessary.
Authenticity being the highest ideal, when one admits the truth about how he/she wants to have it "done", even highly emotional guy can accept the fact the girl just wants to get f@cked without a need to get attached emotionally and given enough time, it becomes normal, later on maybe even a habit.
P.S: After all, maybe our modern age isn't as modern as we might think. History of sex tells us all kinds of stories, ranging from Roman empire, where being gay was normal and all kinds of perversions would find their place. Maybe if we would drop that "image" thing and admit it publicly, masses of people could enjoy sex more often, more quality sex without a need for superficial "morale & ethics" that the Church and conservatives advocate.
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